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Reviewed by
Kay Wilson for The MUFON Journal
"He wondered
if he were ‘crazy,’ he wondered if he was just making it all up, he
wondered if his fascination with UFOs had influenced his thinking,
and he wondered if he would ever find peace,"
writes Patricia McCormack Kerr, M.A., a licensed professional
counselor in the Foreword for Different Child.
Pat McCormack
worked with Sandy Nichols in order to help him try to make sense of
the strange memories and recurring dreams he was dealing with. She
states,
"Because we are still working toward his healing, and at the
same time, continuing to uncover information, I am continuing to
keep most thoughts to myself. What I am willing to share at
this time is that his experience appears to be genuine in regard
to affect and consistency."
As I read
Different Child, I found Sandy Nichols to be a sensitive,
sincere and apparently honest individual who deeply wants to
understand what has happened to himself. And, because he also wanted
to help others, Sandy started Alien Research Group (ARG) in 1998 and
with a close network of friends, and helps people who believe they
have had abduction experiences find counseling and support groups.
One of the many interesting things about this
book that I immediately noticed was its beautiful cover. The artwork
and the title tie in together with the abduction phenomenon in a way
that touched me deeply and I believe it will have the same affect on
others.
Sandy keeps a journal and like many
abductees, he states that by periodically reading his journal, he is
able to remember small, but important details that he originally
thought were inconsequential when he wrote the events in his
journal. After reviewing his journal from time to time, some of the
details now appear to hold a deeper meaning than before. He views
his abductions as something that occurs against his free will and
for the present, he does not feel that abductions are for the good
of the abductee.
Each chapter in
Different Child has a quote beneath the name that gives the
reader a hint as to what the chapter will be about. There is also
poetry in this book written by Sandy and other abductees like
Michelle Guerin. Incidentally, Sandy has actually had several of his
poems purchased by publishers, which attests to his writing
abilities.
While fighting
the idea that abductions were really occurring to him, he also tried
to prove to himself that he was not "doing this to himself" as
debunkers incorrectly believe. He wore gloves to bed at night to
prevent the cuts, scrapes and scratches from occurring. He hung
Christmas bells on his door to awaken himself in case he was
sleepwalking. He set his alarm clock at one-hour intervals to
prevent strange dreams from invading his sleep, but nothing seemed
to change things. He still found himself in strange places, he still
awakened with cuts and bruises and he still had the strange
memories.
Sandy then
asked his doctor to conduct a physical examination to determine if
he had weak blood vessels in his nose to account for nosebleeds, and
to examine his skin to determine if he bruised more easily than most
people did. Nothing seemed to explain his memories or cuts and
bruises except for the fact that unusual things were indeed
happening to him and the possibility of abduction by unknown beings
became a distinct possibility.
Another thing
that touched me early on in this book was reading something that my
mother said to me a long time ago and finding out that Sandy’s
mother said the same thing to him:
" ‘You
have always been my different child,’ shaking her head as [my
mother] slowly turned around and waked down the hallway toward
the other end of the house. I could read her thoughts as easily
as I had heard her words and they sent a chill cascading through
my entire body. For the first time in my life, my mother had
verified the way that I had felt for a long time. With the
challenge that parents face in shaping and molding their
children for life’s journey, I was a piece of the puzzle that
did not quite fit."
Sandy shares
his feelings that deal with the difficulty of low self-esteem, which
many abductees experience because of their abduction encounters.
There are the familiar feelings of failure and the difficulty of
living in two separate, but coexisting worlds: one is the ‘status
quo’ world and the other is a ‘secret’ world that is not supposed to
exist.
One of the
consistencies about all abductees, no matter how they view their
experiences, is the fact that they all appear to go through an
Awakening. Sandy’s awakening revolved around having three
different dreams on the same exact days of the month for
four-and-a-half years with all three dreams involving strange
dancing lights.
Sandy navigates
his way through his awakening and finds support from his wife and
two couples he met at Shoreline Park near Gulf Breeze, Florida. He
finally breaks his silence and shares his ‘terrible secret’ with the
Morrisons and the Pollocks of the Gulf Breeze Research Team, four
people who listened when no one else would or could.
Sandy describes
meeting them, "It was like reuniting with lost family members or
long forgotten friends who had my best interest at heart. The
kindness they showed me was unlike anything else I had ever felt
from strangers." Speaking from experience, I know that the
Morrisons, Pollocks and other members of the Gulf Breeze Research
Team have been listening to and trying to help abductees for many,
many years and I commend them for their kindness and efforts.
Different
Child also contains a
list of 58 possible ‘indicators’ to help an individual determine if
they might be an abductee. To his credit, Sandy does state that
everyone has at one time or another experienced some of the
indicators on his list and they do not necessarily prove you are an
abductee. The indicators are really only guidelines that may
indicate the possibility of being an abductee.
I also found
Sandy’s description of his interaction with the beings excellently
articulated when he states "…the beings actually merge with my
conscious and unconscious thoughts. With this merging it is almost
as if they can read my thoughts before I even think them."
It would not be
a fair and unbiased review if I did not mention the fact that this
book has several editing mistakes, but Sandy is a good writer and
they can be easily overlooked because of his interesting case, good
descriptions, clarity and sincerity.
Different
Child is packed with
information including a substantial listing of helpful Web sites and
a list of Sandy’s favorite books. I also came across new abduction
related information I had not read about before which I hope
everyone will find as interesting as I found it to be. After Sandy’s
personal story ends, he shares with us several submissions from
other abductees and these expose the reader to additional
fascinating and very touching encounters with extraterrestrial and
interdimensional beings. These submissions are exceptionally
interesting and are left unedited so you feel the nuances from each
individual personality sharing their encounter.
Sandy Nichols
boldly shares his abduction experiences with us for the first time
and I believe his story and the submissions from several other
abductees he has faith in, are honest and sincere representations of
what is occurring to many people on our planet. There are
similarities to other cases, but Sandy is a unique individual and as
with all abductions and abductees, each case and each person is
special and has something new to teach us. Different Child
will teach you something new and I believe you will find Sandy
Nichols’ journey a very interesting one!
Different
Child © 2001 by Sandy
Nichols, Write to Print, P.O. Box 1862, Merrimack, NH 03054:
209 Pages, $16.00 + s/h. All inquires about this book should go to:
Sandy Nichols, 551 Turtle Creek Drive, Brentwood, TN 37027
By
Sandy Nichols © 2002 |